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What Is It With Male Fans? Are They shy?

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I play in a band where I’m the only female musician. Actually, I’ve always played in bands where the men outnumber the women. That isn’t the problem.

The problem is that, while girls come up to chat up the boys, no-one shows an interest in me. Now, I’m not THAT ugly and I’m not a terrible sax player, so what am I doing wrong?

Answers on a postcard, please.

If you’ve never seen me perform, you probably can’t judge, but I guess I come across as intimidating. Or terrifying, perhaps. I can’t remember a single occasion when a fan – and yes, I have had some fans – has offered me their phone number. Meanwhile boys have had numbers written on underwear thrust at them.

My last few gigs saw a number of people tell me how much they liked my playing. Great. But I make no secret of the fact that I’m single – actually, that might be the problem – and they can’t all be married, so where’s the problem? Do men want to keep their distance from women who perform on stage?

If any female musicians out there are beating them off with a stick, then please let me in on your secret.